I enjoyed this comparison Sandra Bullock films v other cultural models from Celeste M. Davis's Matriarchal Blessing. 

Community is the opposite of patriarchy

That shiny, pretty pink fantasy of being swept off our feet and filled with love, acceptance, worth and belonging through romantic love is such a very alluring fantasy2, and yet more often than not, it can’t deliver.

Romantic love is not the villain, we’ve simply asked far too much of it. We have asked romance to replace mothers, cousins, shared childrearing, elders, neighbors, ritual, shared labor, friends, community and shared meaning.

It can’t do it, it’s too much.

The fragility of a woman's life and stability depending on a man is not incidental, it's a design feature of the nuclear, patriarchal system.

Community is the opposite of patriarchy. It does not make you earn belonging through your attractiveness or caretaking. It does not isolate women into romantic dependency. It does not parade the isolated islands of nuclear families as the pinnacle of achievement and success.  ...

(read the whole thing, it's great!)